When you are feeling anxiety, know that you are, in that moment, operating from some snag in your psyche that isn't true. You've turned against yourself and it feels very unstable and you want to escape but you can't escape because the anxiety is being produced inside you.
We've all ingested beliefs that are contrary to our true nature and at times these beliefs kick up as defense when something is ruffling us. Maybe someone is doing something or saying something that your belief says shouldn't be happening. Maybe you're having to do something your belief says you can't do or aren't supposed to do. Maybe you're just sitting around and suddenly your mind wanders over to a scenario from the past or imagined future that engages a belief in you that gets you trapped in a spin. It happens to all of us.
The best way to approach this is to become aware that you're feeling the way you are and allow some space to open up inside you. It may help to have a meditation practice as an awareness tool but the act of noticing your inner mood and creating space to keep noticing is meditation in itself, so don't worry about it.
Learn to create your own safe space inside yourself and become a good listener. The anxious feeling may subside on its own or you may need to do a little friendly investigating. Ask your body what this is. What am I believing right now? You're not asking your thoughts, you're asking your body to tell your conscious mind what your subconscious is believing. Give yourself space and don't think it. The answer will come clear when you are in the right listening space with yourself. Consciousness opening up to subconsciousness. When you hear the clear answer, that may be all it takes to free you. If you need another step, ask yourself if you agree with that belief. Again, just feel and listen.
Answers that are true are relaxing and freeing. Truth does not produce anxiety, it allows up to live in reality and to act appropriately and responsively to the need in the moment. Aligning to truth frees us to function well and create a better situation.
Depression is the other side of the same condition. Believing stuff that's not true about yourself is very depressing. Don't buy it. Keep moving into clarity. There is nothing inherently wrong with you.
Yes, our world functions in big ways on control & fear tactics. Most advertisements are telling you what you are missing and what you need to buy to be complete. The economy is based on dividing up the earth and creatures into commodity to sell and burn - an unsustainable model. Health care tends to tell us what's wrong with us instead of promoting our amazing living health. We are taught spiritual insecurity by childish religions that say we are bad bad bad and doomed to hell unless we drink the cool-aide savior, and they all sell different opposing saviors.
But, you know, it's our own inner subconscious landscape that's really what we fear and it's the societies of humans limiting our natural capacity to be awesome that create these messed up systems. We can get free in ourselves and we can correct what needs correcting and change what needs changing in the world. Next time you feel anxiety coming on, take a friendly pause to listen to what you're telling yourself in there.
I don't believe there are different types of people. We're all essential spirit in form. Spirit is undivided and undifferentiated from all of spirit. Oneness is the nature of spirit, maybe sort of like the nature of air only less solid. I don't know. Form is a mysterious gravitational spinning process. This is easy to know. Just rest down and open to the feel of it right now. It's unmistakable when you attune to form. And it never looses its mysteriousness. Knowing is not an answer. Knowing is a relationship of presence, curious for a new discovery each moment.
We are here to wonder about who we really are, and to wander into the intimate question of our soul. Soul is like the desire of the spirit. Profound. It doesn't speak any of our languages exactly but our languages try to speak about it. Thoughts and words are never the real thing. It's more an experience of presence. Like breathing. We can't really know breathing, we experience it. Sure we can try to control it, but not for long! Breathing is wild, like soul, like spirit.
Intimacy grows both directions ~ spirit into form & form into spirit.
We are here to be blown away and return home, over and over, to the spirit's question of embodiment & the body's question of inspiration.
Apparently, along with our form and the way our minds are conceiving & creating & evolving, we also have an aspect of function we call ego. There's also an aspect of ego called personality.
Personality is a suit made up of threads of all of our earliest experiences and conceptions of limits and who knows what else. Personalities are characters in a novel or a play. We do drama even if we say we don't.
Our little ephemeral packages learn by playing with each other and younger packages do it with conviction. By the time we reach our late teens, maybe 20s, we may have our suit on so close we think it's our true skin most of the time.
Luckily, as life wants it, suits start to itch, snag, rip, wear thin so the true body and the light can be felt through spots. The question of the soul begins to sing, louder, in the spaces between and the personality suit threads continue to loosen their twist. Dreams become colorful wild invitations.
New roles become desirable and the very next day or in a minute or movement we shift out of one character into another. Feeling that question asking itself into the body, the many characters start to dance and there's a freaking amazing freedom breaking through within a normal moment of life on earth. The new normal emerges. It is freedom.
The ego sees itself. It relaxes like no previous relaxation. Its ears grow deeper to hear the soul's question which becomes its very special life song. The previous loneliness of perceived separation, what egos believe, simply vanishes from the body. All the rivers, all the streams and tributaries are flowing into the sea. The ephemeral inner tide.
We're here to wonder and wander and dance with each other, to learn and teach each other how to be fun improvisers. There are no types of people, just spirit bridged into form by soul singing its special question as a life song, just life songs playing in these character suits that fool each other for a while with a story of identity. Spirit laughing.