Therapy without the backdrop of "mindfulness" seems more like coaching than therapy. If we're looking to "fix" ourselves, then maybe coaching is fine. Our world is full of that mentality, so we can't miss if that's what we're looking for. But if we're wanting to truly heal, then a therapist needs to be far more capable.  It's the difference between giving answers and helping find the right questions to explore. To heal means to become whole and that comes from within. 

When we approach life in a fixing sort of way, we end up needing on-going management and defense for our fixes because that's not a free state of being or the truth of our potential.  

'Mindfulness' implies developing awareness beyond our tight, fixing, control-focused minds; an inner orientation with nothing really to do with problem solving.  It is more like open attunement in the moment of life. This moment, and this one... We learn to observe and start to perceive how we've been making stories about reality rather than simply living reality. By perceiving our mental behavior while practicing flexibility and curiosity (non-attachment to any outcome, no preference) the behavior of story making begins to dissolve itself. Truth shows up and relaxes us. We begin discovering we are actually walking in amazement that we could have never planned and executed from that stodgy way of thinking, believing and trying that we've been doing.

It's our right and responsibility to continually practice (friendly within ourselves) and when consciousness shows up expanded beyond our mental belief systems, we finally see and can stop believing our mental activities. We become capable of surfing life as it rolls along. Not goal oriented but life oriented. Free.  ... Therapy should help with this.

"Be like water, my friend", Bruce Lee famously said. He wasn't just talking about physicality. The mind can and needs to orient to flow. Without this flexibility, we create prisons everywhere. That's what human culture has created around the world, and we've got to evolve past that model by awakening to the simple moment of life within ourselves, not remaining problem fixing oriented in our narrow boxed in ways of thinking.  That's not healthy and it's not healing.

Therapy, whether talk or body oriented, and any mode of healing needs to become oriented to the evolving front of humanity. If not, then it's just more compartmentalized thought exercise that we desperately need to move beyond. We're killing our ecosystem from our addiction to compounding heady ideas. The newest fad is not evolution, it's just another fad, "same as it ever was".

Recently, I joined and then left a talk therapy group that I discovered was practicing a purely fix-it style of group coaching.  Heady analyzing and mansplaining galore!  It felt like a cult.  I was baffled at how obtuse it all was, lead by a person who is a PhD psychologist. That person must have no mindfulness practice to rest on. That experience made me wonder about the prevalence of therapy these days and the strong potential to end up being groomed further down a dead end via "therapy". 

Therapy, to me, is relating with respect for the *still small voice* of wisdom inside us all. It takes a mindful, spacious orientation to allow that voice to be heard and to allow honest change to happen.
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Therapy needs the humility to perceive the moment while in the moment with another human. Allow the honest question to arise out of the moment and to be spoken as an invitation to explore.  There's a free, bright-eyed wonder to this. A commitment to staying in the not-knowing with each other, open and generous, honest and awake, so the honest resolution can happen organically. Big invitation into freedom. That's therapeutic to me.

Knowing is not an answer, it is a relationship; an open, engaged, mutual curiosity.
Me and now. Me and yes. Me and you.
Knowing is living bare in the moment of reality, experiencing the moment as it evolves, evolving with the moment.
Knowing and not knowing are partners. We cannot Know unless we can Not Know.  So we, in our heady culture, can relax about thinking we have to get a handle on it all.  
Knowing is a fluid relationship, spiral of life, losing track of who is who every now and then.

Open awareness meditation (the way Buddhists practice) and Biodynamic orientation are really two ways of the same Way.  The ego learns how to listen to the divine, greater movement of life. 

Egos can't ever KNOW anything, not in the solid way we're usually taught to think of knowing as "possessing knowledge".  Everything in the world is always moving and changing so knowing one minute is not knowing the next.  But, thankfully, we are not limited to our egos.  That's just an aspect of us, the "small mind" way of being.  We can, in fact, learn to orient awareness beyond ego and life becomes a fun and free exploration.  Egos get to learn how to dance with life. 

From working with lots of different people, themes emerge.  One is the simple thing about gratitude.  When a client is in gratitude of their own lives, the health of their own bodies, then there's a resonance of gratitude in the room and the healing relationship is safe for deepening into the recesses of the client's body/psyche.  In that deepening, the profundity of what keeps life going is able to do its thing, releasing even very old traumatic holdings. Why wouldn't we want that? I think we all do want that, we just lose connection to our natural gratitude at times. 

Healing is available in us all the time, I do believe that, but something is commonly blocking it.  And what is it that's blocking it?  

One way that I've come to understand the blocks to our health has to do with gratitude, and a misunderstanding/mis-training that might be in the way.  Gratitude is often talked about as being to/for someone or something outside of ourselves, for gifts given to us, or based on someone's idea about God.  But what I learn through embodiment and healing in myself as well as in clients is that gratitude is really our own internal availability to ourselves in full feeling and honesty.  A real appreciation for our very bodies and moments of life.  Real gratitude is unconditional, not hinging on having things just so, nor expecting things to go just as we want.  Gratitude is being truly with ourselves through it all.  

We can train ourselves toward the state of gratitude as a way of opening and allowing the healing that is trying to happen in our bodies/minds/lives.  Biodynamic CST is a perfect body therapy to blend with this gratitude practice.  It certainly helps me!  

Peter Levine, PhD is the author of Waking the Tiger and Trauma Through a Child's Eyes and he developed Somatic Experiencing, a highly effective trauma resolving therapy.  This quote inspired me today.

The word "trauma" refers to an interrupted capacity to process and respond to life as it happens. It's a condition of stuckness and involves an internalized belief that X is not possible to move on from. Our bodymind system gets held hostage by the past and it's actually IN the body tissues and communication pathways, like a traffic crash that never gets cleared from the road.  Day after day, year after year we drive around the crash site, practicing a belief in the change to our direct route. 

Traumatic experiences DO happen. This is what I hope will not be misunderstood. We do get overwhelmed. The heart of overwhelm is the disconnect between our functional consciousness and our "empathic witness". Remember or imagine a time when something got scary and you were able to rise to the occasion and do what needed to be done. That we are able to rise to hard occasions is reassurance that it's not so much what happened but how we responded, or how we were NOT able to respond that gets imprinted. And it's the inner empathy, the witness within each of us that can shows us our best way through hard times. It's how we learn, and learning is ultimately kind.

Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy helps consciousness return to the body tissues that are blocked.  Because it is a body-oriented therapy, it does not rely on telling and analyzing the story of the trauma.  Anything that has been held back from consciousness, blocking our capacity to respond in life, can be released from the body's tissues.  When the body no longer holds trauma, we become free to move along.  It's like, one day, instead of driving around the old crash site again, we choose to pause and clear the debris off the road.  From that day on, that stretch of path is clear.  

We really don't have to maintain and manage trauma for the rest of our lives, no matter what has happened to us.  Even if an event caused a permanent change in some way, we still have our birthright to live in freedom and resilience.  We are still worthy of our own love and compassion.  The empathic witness of consciousness never leaves us, we just need help sometimes in reconnecting to ourselves.  That's essentially how BCST works, as I understand it today.

These are my Facebook posts during my first ever experience as a poll worker.  I highly recommend working the polls and I will definitely be doing it again!

Oct 12
I’m reading my poll worker manual, setting my focus on tomorrow and every day through Oct 30. Here’s a nice paragraph for that focus ~
“Amid long hours and strict deadlines, you must continue to provide gracious customer service. A cool head and sense of humor will ensue your success! You must be thorough, accurate, and pay attention to detail to avoid disenfranchising voters.”

Oct 14
I saw a t-shirt yesterday that said "VOTE LIKE YOUR ANCESTORS DIED FOR IT", worn by a black woman who walked with a cane who brought her grandchildren with her.  They were radiating integrity and I had some chills.  The long story was embodied in them.  (sometimes generational story really shows up and makes me goosebumpy)
I loved seeing all the kids at the polling place!  They were shiny and present and had things to say.  Some of them voluntarily told me their names and some danced and played with each other while their adults voted, some stood with their adults as they made their selections.
I get to do it again today and another 16 days after that!
VOTE

Oct 15
Yesterday at the polls I was stationed for a while at the scanner/deposit box.  It was a celebratory place to be!  People were SO relieved to have cast their votes and we had lots of cheering, congratulating, clapping going on over there.
I was making sure people put their ballot on the GREEN arrow because it works better than the gray one below it.  I was giving people their coveted stickers and reminding them to toss the finger cot into the trashcan.  Eventually a woman told me that people were keeping their finger rubbers to take pictures with them and posting on social media. From then on I reminded everyone they could either toss it there or keep it as a voting memento and maybe even take a selfie with their voter finger.  A lot of people did keep them and we had some cute laughs together.  
VOTE! Lines are not as long since Tuesday. You'll probably be in and out in no time and it will feel SO GOOD!

Oct 15
Yes, there were tears at the polling place today.  Sweet emotion.

Oct 16
I've been having the honor to assist some first-time voters through the process.  Each one has made an impact on my heart.
A smiling Latina woman (smiles radiate thru masks) who looked maybe in her late 50s leaned in and whispered to me, "I've never done this before" and I said "I will help you."  ... After her ballot was printed and we started to walk down to the scanner, her whole posture seemed bigger and she wasn't whispering anymore.  She told me that she had always thought it just wasn't something she did, but now knows that she can vote too.
As she was talking it seemed her words were correcting the internalized message carried all those years.  She was sharing a part of her private history with me, about that belief that told her she wasn't a person that voted.  She said something like "It was easy. Now that I've done it, I really don't know why I never did it before."  And now she's a voter!  There was such integrity and relief shining out of her.  A transformation.  Even as I'm writing, I feel it.
It's inspiring to be at the polls with every person that comes.  Some people bring heart gifts with them. I'm forever changed.

Oct 20
I want to preface this story from the polling place with this: I’ve been naming a few people’s race/ethnicity in the stories. That’s because we are voting over here and there are few things more meaningful than people showing up for representation, particularly those who are not historically well represented. To put it gently.
The story:
An older black woman came to the ballot scanner. She said that she really hopes it goes well and I said ‘there’s so much energy for it’.  Then she closed her eyes and prayed right there, and I swear the air got still for a few moments. She was fully serious. It was like spirit came into gravity and it was felt. It was strong!

Oct 22
Yesterday just after I got to the polls one of my co-workers called me over to help someone get started.  He was a fairly muscular black man wearing a mask w/ a colorful design on it.
He told me he's 47 and never voted before and expressed some embarrassment.  ... After he made his selections and printed his ballot, I joined him for the ceremonial walk down the skating rink/basketball court to put it in the scanner.  I started asking him how it went at the machine and then saw that he had tears in his eyes and he said "I feel very proud"... and then we were both crying and looking at each other and talking some more.  He said "This morning I told my girlfriend that I felt nervous about today" (about voting for the first time)... and then... "I have a voice"... !!!
Such a beautiful human.
Yesterday we had a whole lot of first time voters.  A lot of emotion and a lot of connection.  There's a sea change, friends.

Oct 26
We're in the homestretch for early voting!  Don't wait!
Yesterday I started just asking everyone how they feel as they cast their ballots and many people shared a LOT in very short time.  A young white woman lifted her hands in a prayer and looked up, in tears.  She and I had a little time just feeling it together, appreciating.  It was fear and hope.  I wonder what she's been going through.
A black woman sat at the resolution desk for a while and then walked to the exit.  She said she's been in the military and because she missed responding to an address change a few years ago her voting registration was purged.  That felt really sad and frustrating.  Her boyfriend had already voted and was waiting for her at the door with me.  We'd been talking and laughing, admiring his fantastic tortoise shell glasses.
All citizens ought to be automatically registered voters in this country.  Why not?  It specially angers me that someone can serve in the military and be purged.  There is a limited ballot that is available to people who have moved away from where they're registered, allowing everyone to at least vote for the higher offices.
We had a young white couple who were not trusting the process. It took 4 of us poll workers to interact with them in various ways since they had a lot of questions that were not really questions but accusations. It was unsatisfying for everyone.  I'm still siting with it, being on the receiving end of the angst that is also here.  And it's easy to write off people when they're uncontained in angst. They brought that reminder like a neon sign, about the despair that can be masked through a lifetime of practice. I'm sure I've seen that many times at the ballot casting machine - the masking.  I felt it in the woman who had been purged after being in the military.  She didn't put it on her sleeve but it was there.
I want to give room in myself for it all and be part of the change toward dignity.  We all need to belong.
We have one more week!

Oct 29
Ventana Ballet is doing small performances around town at the polls today! This is at Millennium now! (video attached)
We’re much busier than we’ve been for days and days.
It’s looking good for democracy!
We had our first person to come through not wearing a mask. A couple of others have asked upon arrival if we had masks they could have since they forgot theirs. We do! Glad to be able to help with that! But the person who didn’t ask seemed unconcerned. He had his mouth hanging open the entire time, mouth breathing into the air. He seemed pretentious, too, which is always unimpressive to me.
I know an entire household here in Austin that was just diagnosed with Covid. Some of them have been galavanting around and now they’re sick. Covid is not gone. It’s on the rise again.
And again, even if you have an impressive list of daily supplements, you do pranayama all day long, your immune system is awesome and you don’t get symptoms... you can still pass Covid-19 to others who might not be as fortunate as you.
Just wear a mask.
Especially when you go to the polls to vote, where a lot of people in all sorts of conditions are TRUSTING their fellow citizens with their health because they are concerned about mailing their ballots due to all the smearing and blocking of voting by mail... Please wear a mask. It’s what we’re doing right now to care for each other because masks reduce the spread of Covid, which can severely affect and kill people...
It has felt really good to be working the polls, helping people feel welcome, important and SAFE to vote. A lot of older voters have commented about the risk they had to take. It’s important that we all add to the sense of trust.
Please respect your fellow voters and wear a mask at the polls. ​

...That was the last post.  It goes without saying, this has been a strange long year.  Today is December 29th and late October feels like 2 years ago.  We DO have a new President Elect as well as many new and returning public servants. I'm choosing to call them public servants, as a reminder...  We STILL have tremendous division and challenge to face.  We CAN face our reality and keep stepping in the direction of dignity and health for us all.  We ARE NOT separate in reality.  

I wrote about the dementia diagnosis my mom received a few months ago and it has already changed.  Reading what I wrote back then, I can feel where I was when I wrote it.  I was standing just to the side trying to be connected and wanting to say something useful.  I think this sort of diagnosis is for all of us, not only my mom.  The past ways of thinking and trying do fade out and we're left with now.  That's all we really ever wanted.  I mean, our souls and our bodies have always been fully present.  What are we remembering?